An age old debate that crops up on a regular basis is the use of a positive mind set. Many people say that having a positive outlook can completely change your life, health and relationships, but just as many also completely disagree with this saying its pie in the sky. So I wanted to test it, does having a positive attitude really “change your world”?
Now before I tell you how I got on I’ll let you know a little about me. I’m James, originally from Birmingham, UK and now living in Northern NSW, Australia. I’ve a background in Marketing, successfully completing a degree in the subject and now following the career path. Now I grew up a very straight down the line, things are black or white, if your not happy with something change it kind of guy. I didn’t go for any of this personal development “malarkey”. As far as I was concerned life is life. Despite some suggestions of looking at personal development I would point blankly refuse muttering the words “why would you spend money on that?”. So essentially you could say I was rooted in the negative camp, maybe could’ve run for President of Stubborn Negativity. In a last ditch attempt to change my attitude I was asked if I would be willing to watch The Secret. Now for those who don’t know it’s a documentary/movie that’s also in book form that’s all about personal development through positive thought. Now I didn’t much go for the personal development bit, but hey there were snacks and there wasn’t much else on the box that day, so I agreed. So I watched the movie and listened to the testimonials of how a positive attitude can change your life and your results in anything you set your mind to. I actually found it quite interesting and they made it all look quite easy, but I was still very skeptical. At the end of the film I thought, non of that can be true, can it? Now despite the fact that I was skeptical I didn’t really want to think I could be missing out on something. So I decided to give it a go, well I’d got nothing to lose and everything to gain (in trying to prove it wrong!).
So now here I am down the track and what did I discover?
I discovered something I really didn’t expect. I found out that it works! Shock horror I had to admit to being wrong! (which being stubborn took a lot of effort!). I played the game full out and consciously kept my mind on the positive. I also visualized on the things I wanted (as also recommended). And things started to happen for me! Job offers began to flood in (with not much effort!), opportunities for adventure arose and my relationship with my partner jumped up in levels and I just felt truly happy! I just felt like smiling all the time! It was weird, such a small thing changed how I looked at daily situations, it changed my experiences and I actually began to see people around me in a new light. I could see when someone was positive and negative. I could relate their experiences to their outlook. Now believe me I’m not trying to preach here, I’m literally going on what I know and have found. But since then I’ve looked into positive thought some more and found a few really interesting concepts.
One of them being that you choose 90% of your results! I read an Ebook all about how you choose what happens to you in your life. It uses the example of how reacting to one event can set off a whole chain of events throughout the day and can escalate dramatically. It also looks at how you cause yourself undue stress by how you react and how you can change your thinking to improve your chances! You can pick up a free copy at www.home-based-business-know-how.com.
Another principal that has stuck in my mind and fascinated me has come form that book. And it is how two people can have the exact same experience and yet if you asked them one could’ve had a fantastic time and the other could’ve had the worst day of their life. But how is that so?
Well when you keep your mind positive you tend to pick up the positives and see the silver lining in everything. They see the chance for happiness in every scenario. You’re constantly looking for the positives so you don’t even notice the negatives.
FACT You can’t think of a positive and a negative at the same time! Try it!
Where as on the flip side a negative person will only pick up the negatives. If Mr Negative goes on holiday and immediately thinks of something they don’t like they’ll spend the whole holiday looking for other things they don’t like! Why? Because no one in the world likes to be wrong. Plain and simple, so if you believe you don’t like something you will constantly looking to back up your argument about how horrible something is. If you spent a holiday looking for things you didn’t like how could you possibly have a good time? You just couldn’t!
So is it that simple? Is it that you can really just decide to have good things happen to you? In a nut shell YES! Just decide to be happy, that’s all you essentially need to do and look for the positives everyday and be thankful for everything good in your life. By thinking about all the good things it’ll certainly put you in a great mood to start the day and the rest will follow. A great saying is that nothing is good or bad, but the human mind makes it so.
Remember nothing ever stays the same, but is it getting better or getting worse you decide!
Thanks for taking the time to read my blog, I look forward to your comments and make sure you forward this to anyone you know who is negative! It may help them!
Is this you?